How to Make Your Marriage Last - Vol. 3

HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE LAST – VOL.3 ($EX)

We are still discussing what you can do as woman to make your marriage last. When we are done with the case of women, we will venture into the cases of men. We are discussing three things a woman should do to make her marriage last. And they are:
 • LOYALTY
 • SUPPORT
• $EX

We are already done with that of LOYALTY AND SUPPORT. Today, we are venturing into the last one, and that is $EX.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE LAST - $EX

I have to be very careful in the usage of this word because of its sanctity. I pray for the grace to do so. $ex as we all know was meant for marriage and marriage is as well meant foe $ex. But it is quite unfathomable how this status quo has failed to sustain some marriages. The reasons are not far from what I am going to enumerate here. Most men after one year in marriage do not find it fascinating to meet their wives. They get tired of that same thing they were longing and paying heavily for, one year before. The reason is because most women involved do not know how to make their man always want for more. Thus all women are to take note of the following and apply them appropriately in order to make their marriage last • Give it to him as often times as possible. And very importantly do not deny him on that rare occasions he asks for it with his own mouth. • Do not lie on the bed like a dead wood and allow the man to suffer. He is not under punishment. Reciprocate the offer in whatever way you can. • New $ex positions should be tested. The normal missionary position is fading away and no longer fashionable, be innovative as a wife, invent new styles. • There should be no permanent venue for it. It must not be in the bedroom. • There is also no permanent time for it. It must not be after dinner. Understand the principle of timing. There are romantic and non-romantic times. • Use pornographies if you wish. Yes. That is the actual reason for that kind of negative civilization. Exploit them and make your marriage last. Don’t be too holy for all these things. You have the license to do them now. Watch as many of them as you can, and practise them. They are not WWE Championship that will tell you “do not try this at home”. No! Kindly try them. They are not harmful. • Initiate the $ex process romantically. Do not just go and lie down on the bed and be waiting for him to come and lie. No! Let something lead to something that will finally lead something to something for something to happen. • $ex is meant to be talked and practised; not just practical. So talk $ex. Discuss it. That is why God made it. So do it now or never. Let me stop here for now. Use the comment box below for comments, questions and contributions.

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How to make Your Marriage Last - Vol.2 (SUPPORT)

 How to make your marriage last - THE SUPPORT ROLE OF THE WIFE

Goodmorning, it is me, Oga Innocent, the driver on the wheels. Behold the volume 2 of “How to make your marriage last”.

Remember how we intended to do it. We are still on the “Things to DO (THE DO’s) to make your marriage last as a woman”. We were discussing the DO’s under three projections:

 1. LOYALTY 

2. SUPPORT 

3. $EX

We are already done with LOYALTY, if you missed it, check it out here:

HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE LAST –VOL.1 (LOYALTY)

Now without taking much of our time, let us attack the topic of today: 

HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE LAST – VOL. 2 (SUPPORT)

As a woman, the most striking reason of your existence as a wife to a man is the status quo – support. Remember the reason God created woman ab initio. Remember woman was not in the programme of events during the creation. The creation of woman was circumstantial. And what was the circumstance that led to the creation of one of the most important creatures of God? He needs a helpmate. That was the clause that changed the programme of events – He needs a helpmate.

Many marriages are becoming boring because the woman has deviated from the position of being a helpmate to the position of being “a helped mate”. Others want their husbands to be their helpmate. It is not the way. That way that seemeth right to you are the ways of death (Prov. 14:12). Listen to the way:

As a wife, support your husband. Check, is he psychologically down because of one investment that is about to crumble, be a psychologist. Calm him down. Is he medically unfit, do not send the maid or nanny to go and stay with him in the hospital because you are working in the bank. You were created to be a helpmate, not a banker. Is he physically weak, massage him. Is he hungry, then be ashamed of yourself. Is he financially down, you can actually pay Chiboy’s school fees at least for that term.

Your husband must not provide the money for food before he eats. Do not tell him there is no food in the house simply because he left without dropping some dough.

He is back from work, weak and stressed out, help him out with the ropes of his shoes; help him remove the heavy suit, put out the water for shower; is he tired to go to the bathroom, lead him there; he cannot even bath himself, then bath him.

We are talking of support here. Support your husband in all ramifications, and enjoy your marriage. Most of the things I say here, are meant to be practical. I do not believe in theoretical pronouncements that will end up just entertaining the reader. That is why I tell you the things to do and how to do explicitly without hiding or mincing words. So if you are a wife or a potential wife, apply the few tips above and give us feedback if it worked so that others (our Thomases) will see and believe or if it did not work so that we change our tempo and strategy. Seeing your marriage last is my concern.

Remember to read: HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE LAST –VOL.1(LOYALTY)

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HOW TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE LAST – Vol. 1

I will discuss this topic on two different grounds:

1.   The things to do ( The Do’s)

2.   The things not to do (The DON’T’s)

THE THINGS TO DO TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE LAST (THE DO’s)

The DO’s of marriage can still be categorized into

1.   The DO’s for the man and

2.   The DO’s for the woman.

I will start with the woman first.

THINGS TO DO AS a WOMAN TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE LAST (THE DO’S OF MARRIAGE)

It is very simple. There are three things to do to your man and your marriage will become like the land of cannan (the land that flows with milk and honey). Three things that a man needs are:

1.   Loyalty (Respect, Adoration, Humility)

2.   Support

3.   Sex

Loyalty: One thing which is inherent in man is his ego. Every man loves his ego even more than money. This is what you as a woman or wife should try and preserve. In fact, in the scale of preference of a man, the first is his ego, the second is money, and woman is just the third. Every man needs a loyal wife. You can call it loyalty, you can call it respect, adoration, or humility; we are all saying the same thing in a different way. Adore a man and watch him give you his empire. Have you ever tried kneeling to greet you husband every morning?

O yes! When I say loyalty, I do not mean just “good morning sir”. Every other woman calls him “sir” out there. You need to make a difference. Can you try greeting your husband on your knees? Have you tried it? How does it look like? Give it a trial and watch him treat you like an egg. Give him that maximum loyalty and watch him give you his empire. But, disrespect him and watch him treat you like a towel. That is how a man functions. The choice is yours!

Do not tell me we are not in 19^th century where women kneel to greet their husbands; because that is exactly the bane of most marriages today. Many women have relegated their place and want the place of the man; and the man wants to retain his place, thus there is a struggle; and that is where the problem now starts. Many women want to be the commander of the house. They want every of their words and wishes to be carried out, because after all the bible said “the two shall become one”. Therefore, they are one. The house belongs to us. Anybody that wakes up first should enter the kitchen. Anyone that wakes last should dress the bed. Anybody that wakes first should get the kids ready for school. Anybody that comes back first from work first, should prepare the dinner. hmmmm

Mind you, you are never one with you husband. Do not misinterpret the bible. Your husband is your superior. He is higher than you. That was God’s punishment to woman in Genesis 3:16

 “I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shall bring forth children, and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and HE SHALL RULE OVER YOU”.

Do you get that? When you hear that “the two shall become one”, it means that both of you shall be in concord. That is, both you shall be agreeable, and shall function as a unit. God the Father, Son and Holy Ghost are one, but are they equal? The answer is NO. Jesus (God the Son) while on earth has always adored, respected, and given all the glory to God the Father, who is supreme. In the same way, adore your husband O’wife! Adore your man O’woman!

Hope this is helpful? Any question or contribution, use the comment box below.

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